Desi In Toronto

October 28, 2008

Happy Diwali To You All

Filed under: About Me, Around The House, Festivals and Celebrations — agsharma @ 11:21 am

Diwali, the Hindu holiday of light falls today. It is the festival of lights as celebrated by most of India (and parts of Sri Lanka and Nepal) for differing reasons. Think of it as christmas for non-christians.

From wikipedia :

Hindus have several significant events associated with it:

Return of Lord Rama to Ayodhya

The Killing of Narakasura

Austerities of Shakti

Birth of Goddess Lakshmi

Krishna defeating Indra

In addition to Hindus, Sikhs celebrate diwali as well as Buddhists and Jains, basically, as I said before, the whole of India more or less celebrates diwali.

As a child I used to love Diwali. The lead up to the day was the best times I have had in my life. The whole world would be light up for a week before Diwali and there was a deep sense of joy everywhere, even in my dad’s acrimonious household in Nabha!! You could not escape the sheer force of Diwali no matter who you were, how much love you had for your family and what your place was in the Indian society. The big feature, of course, was the firecrackers on the evening of Diwali. Frankly I used to hate the firecrackers and would “enjoy” them from a distance. The whole festival was loud and pollution from the firecrackers was intense but I LOVED it. There was scrumptuous foods, assortment of sweets and deserts, and lots and lots of enjoyable company throughout the evening and deep into the night.

I remember the day would start with us taking a bath and wearing new clothes and then going off into the market to window shop for firecrackers. This would take us to afternoon and we would drive to my dad’s house in Nabha from Patiala, where we lived.

My grandmother would then take us kids to the small temple behind the house and makes us pray even though we would looking at the sky to see how soon the sun would set so that we could start partying. We would them go to the intersection near the house and place diyas (earthen lamps) in the middle of the intersection and soon, it would become a make shift round about. That image for some reason is burned into my memory. I loved the look of the lamps in the middle of the intersection in dusk, with all the foot and scooter/bicycle traffic avoiding the lamps carefully.

We would then proceed to our house for the main prayer of the evening where everyone was required to attend. I remember that my grandmother would lead the prayer and everyone would join in although after sometime, everyone would start joking and making fun of each other while my grandmother would try, in vain, to shush all of us. Then all of us, from the senoir most onwards, would dip their palm in flat plate with clay like solution and then place it on the freshly painted wall in the temple. Again, I have no idea of the significance of the ritual but again, it is something I re-live every diwali.The whole time our ears were rotating about like a radar to hear the first signs of firecrackers so that we could begin our whining to leave the prayer room.

And once the prayers were over, we kids were let loose. Out came the packets of firecrackers (or in my case, the ones that did not make a huge boom) and we went to the roof (which was the highest in the neighbourhood giving us a vantage point on who had the best fire display going) and then we proceeded to drown out neighbourhood with various types of bombs, rockets, strings of small crackers etc. My uncle was big into spending as much as possible on firecrackers and when questioned why, he said that it is auspicious to spend money in Diwali so that it will bring him good luck. I think he just wanted to show off!!

This would continue for an hour or so (yes, that’s how many firecrackers we had!!) and then it was time to ignore the mess and go instead for a movie or just relax around while the elders indulged in another auspicious activity - gambling. Yup, it is auspicious to gamble in Diwali. It is supposed to bring you luck!!

Before we went to sleep, everyone made sure that the doors were unlocked and most of the lights in the passage were switched on. This was done to welcome the goddess Lakshmi who would bring us luck and wealth (something like Santa Clause with intangible benefits).

Now, living Canada, the holiday is completely devoid of any joy. Sure, we get together with the family during Diwali but the boisterous nature of Diwali is missing in Canada. The low point of course is trying to explain to your kids what Diwali means. I tried the other day to explain what Diwali is to my daughter, Rhea, and the whole conversation fizzled when I tried to explain to Rhea that she is Hindu and Hindus celebrate Diwali. And she kept insisting the whole time that she is not Hindu but a little girl!!

I leave you with something I found on Hindu Blog and wish you all a very happy Diwali :

Satguru Bodhinatha Veylanswami on the Significance of Diwali:

The inner significance of Diwali is that it is a joyful celebration of the victory of good over evil, of our spiritual qualities dominating our basic instincts, intellect and ego. Light is a universal symbol of spirituality. Thus bringing more light into our homes and therefore our lives symbolizes each of us becoming a more spiritual person.

The light of the soul can transform our baser qualities of greed, distrust and hatred into selfless giving, trust and helpfulness. It can inspire us to be consistent in our efforts to progress on the path of spiritual unfoldment. And it can reveal to us our true identity as immortal souls living and growing in the great school of earthly experience.

July 23, 2008

So Where Did I Disappear To?

Filed under: About Me, In New York — agsharma @ 9:07 am
  • Because I am between jobs, I and my daughter moved to New York City to visit my wife.
  • In the first few days of living in NYC, realised that this city is actually quite a beast.
  • The cliche “city never sleeps” is so, so, so, so, true.
  • Looking for the punk/rock music scene for a parent, with a child in tow constantly, is not easy.
  • Central park totally rocks!!!
  • Navigating the streets is so freaking easy.
  • The subway system is at least 10 larger than the one in Toronto and twice as cheap.
  • People ARE friendly despite what you might have heard.
  • City is both the cleanest and the dirtiest I have ever scene.
  • Saw a homeless man eat out of a garbage can in front of Macy’s on the 5th Avenue.
  • Booze shops and eating joints are everywhere. Still have to find a decent used book store.
  • Natural History  Museum is absolutely awesome. Do not take young ones with you or spouses who get bored within 20 minutes of being there.
  • Runners rule the roost here.
  • Some of the women are stunning.
  • Some of the men put me to shame.
  • Love the fact that I can walk into a grocery store and buy beer.
  • Hate the fact the selection of beer is nowhere nearly enough. The Beer Stores in Canada are much, much better.
  • The price of beer is about 75% of what it is in Canada.
  • Tried Sushi here and have fallen in love with it.
  • Living places are tiny and expensive.
  • Kid’s parks are everywhere but they are really dirty.
  • Large South Asian population here.
  • Noticed that most of the obese people are black. Why?

More later……on the whole, I really like New York but cannot see myself living there.

June 29, 2008

Christie Blatchford

Filed under: About Me, Conservaties, Moronic Mainstream, Society — agsharma @ 7:27 am

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It was at that point that the Air Canada clerk at Gate 27 approached me.

“Excuse me,” he said, “you can’t say those words. Those words are illegal.”

“What words?” I asked, bewildered, given that by then I’d said probably 2,000 words.

“Suicide bombing,” he whispered.

Now, I know of course one is not to make jokes or threats about bombs at airports, and properly so. But I hadn’t been doing that, rather recounting some of the public evidence heard that day at a public trial in the nation’s capital.

“That’s not illegal,” I snapped, barely restraining myself from adding “You ninny.” Besides, I told him, I was a reporter telling another reporter about my work day, which was true enough.

“Do you want me to call security?” he asked primly. “I’m supposed to call security in these situations.”

“You do what you like,” I said, talked to Rose a bit longer, then sat down and resumed reading my book.

About 10 minutes later, a fellow passenger warned me that she thought the clerk had called security. I couldn’t believe it, and kept reading, and sure enough, within a few minutes, a young woman with a walkie-talkie in her hands (I guess so if I suddenly turned into a human missile she could call for help) asked to speak to me. She’d had a report about “an incident,” she said. So I told her through gritted teeth what had happened, she magnanimously agreed it was “not illegal” to say what I’d said, apologized and went on her way.

When we boarded a little later, I asked for the ninny’s name. He refused and hissed, “If you make a scene, I’ll call the pilot and you won’t be flying tonight.”

I was so very tempted to tell him to go ahead, but I knew he probably would do it and I wanted badly to get home, so held my tongue. I was quietly praising myself for my steely calm when another passenger remarked, “I didn’t know you were an anarchist, Christie.”

Here is the comment I left :

I despise Chritie’s comments, I think DiManno is a douche bag and Steyn is a racist. However, we need these voices. We need them to remind us that there are people out there who still think that racism is ok and being one is very, very “brave”.

I would, however, prefer that these commentators be a little more consistent. The other day Chritie wanted Canadians to be less polite and now she is complaining about a `less polite`Canadian. The other day DiManno said that everything is going fine in Afghanistan and a week later soldiers are being killed, Taliban breaks out of jail and Dimanno bemoans lack of security in her next column. And Steyn. Oh boy, some are racists subtly, but this guy wears it on his sleeve.

I am brown and I would gladly (and have) submit to racial profiling at the airport. It is annoying, humiliating and embarrassing esp. when my daughter is with me. And all because I worked in the UAE for 3 years. I don`t like it but it`s the sign of the times. And I am not even a muslim.

So for all the times that you white folk have been stepped on lightly by airport security, we brown folks have had to endure much worse. So stop whinning and get back to your lattes and newspaper at the airport while we are subjected to intimidating interviews. we will try not to delay your flights.

April 21, 2008

Am Back!!

Filed under: About Me — agsharma @ 11:03 pm

Sorry about the lack of posts……early last week I lost my job. I was kind of expecting it but more so after a few months than just before summer. Oh well, it happens. I am now actively looking for a job so if anyone has a need for an AS/400 programmer, call me.

Regular posting will commence from today. On that note, check out this song by Spoon.

Update : OMG!!! This is totally me in the last 2 months!!!

April 13, 2008

Top Ten Can-Indians Issues

Filed under: About Me, Satire, Social Studies — agsharma @ 10:14 pm

Ever since I became an Indian born  Canadian the following are some of the issues I have had to deal with…..

1) Festivals that I used to take for granted in India are now obscure concepts (Diwali, Holi, Dushera etc.)

2) Having deep conversations with my 4 year old on why she is brown and not white.

3) Having to sit through parties and listen to recently returned Can-Indians praise on and on about the growth in India and then be told by the same people on a one to one basis on how much India actually sucks (electricity disruptions, water disruptions, corruption etc.)

4) Having to see my child give me a quizzical look when she is speaking to her grandparents in India.

5) Having to hear a pathetic drugged white pan handler give me a scolding on how I am taking his job away and how I have to shut up because that person just may have a weapon on him.

6) Having to deal with only 3 weeks holiday instead of 5 weeks.

7) Having to explain to visitors to Canada why Tim Horton’s coffee, for it’s price, is the best in the world.

8 ) Having to shovel snow.

9) Having to go to a job where I know I can do much more for the company than my boss ever can. But since I really don’t have requisite “Canadian experience”, I have to take what I can.

10) Having to explain to jerks over and over again to why Cricket is an exciting sport with lots of action in it. Of course, right after such a conversation, the jerks go into a detailed analysis of the latest golf tournament!! Go figure.

April 12, 2008

Confused!!

Filed under: About Me, Music, Society — agsharma @ 10:34 pm

Just finished watching Metal : A Headbanger’s Journey.

The documentary ended up confusing me to bits. The confusion is what kind of music do I like? I mean I am likely to nod my head listening through my headphones to the song Raining Blood from Slayer and to the song Sound Of Silence from Simon and Garfunkel.

I hum to the music of Kishor Kumar and to the music of My Bloody Valentine.

I tap my foot to the music of Mohammad Rafi & Lata Mangeshkar and to the music Sonic Youth.

So having watched the documentary on Metal and how there are people out there who are totally hooked on to one genre of music and how they are totally able to immerse themselves completely in that genre while ignoring the rest of the music styles, is a complete mystery to me. I am sure there are millions like me out there……just not here in Mississauga, Ontario.

March 10, 2008

Oh Come On…..Stop Already!!

Filed under: About Me — agsharma @ 9:47 pm

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February 28, 2008

An Update

Filed under: About Me — agsharma @ 8:45 pm

I have updated my About page…..and hopefully my procrastination will ebb a bit and I will add more to the page…….

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